Why I cheated: My wife had started raising me and I stopped feeling attracted to her at all

It’s strange how me and my wife We went from being lovers who couldn’t stop obsessing over each other, to a marriage that fought over trivial things. On top of everything, what bothers me the most is how my wife has started parenting me over EVERYTHING. Every day, I hear comments like, “You should stop drinking; it will affect your health,” “Why did you go out with your friends for so long?”, “You should plan your day in advance.” I can bet that any man will get frustrated with the nature of his wife, who out of nowhere takes on the role of a parent. I tried to politely tell her how her dictates were affecting me and our relationship, but she just wouldn’t get it.

I felt caged in my relationship and eventually stopped feeling sexual attraction to my wife. Even when we were making love, she would make faces if things got a little too complicated. I mean, who does that? I think what a lot of people don’t realize is that they don’t suddenly acquire this right after being in a relationship. marriage where they feel that they can change a person or expect them to change. To love someone is to accept them as they are. Also, two people can never think the same way or behave the same way. It is inevitable that there will be differences in terms of personality.

The worst thing is when spouses start acting like parents and condescendingly dictate to you from time to time. I had reached a point in my relationship where I could not take it anymore. I told my wife categorically that I would sleep in a different room for a while because I had a lot of official work pending. I expected her to say no to the idea, but it was a surprise to me when she happily agreed. It was then that I realized that our relationship really had nothing to lose. We were just together for our child, maybe. No date nights, no sex, no emotional intimacy, and no topic of conversation – our relationship was ruined because of my wife’s effort to be my mother.

I desperately sought emotional and physical intimacy. I craved it like anything else. It almost felt like my body had stopped producing oxytocin, the feel-good hormone. I decided to sign up for an app in hopes of finding someone who could fill that void. And well, this time the universe didn’t let me down. I came across a lovely woman who was doing very well professionally. She was smart and mature. After talking to her, I realized that I felt a deep connection with her and at the same time, I felt like I could be myself. I didn’t feel caged at all. I didn’t feel like someone was trying to change me or educate me. It was refreshing to be with her.

She told me that she had never met a man who could accept her success and encouraged her. On the other hand, I told her that I felt exhausted with my wife lecturing me all the time about how I could do better in life. We understood each other and gave each other the desired space. What goes without saying is that she is good in bed. She is the one who rules in bed and I love that about her.

My friends who know I’m sleeping with another woman sometimes ask me if I feel guilty for cheating on my wife, and I simply tell them that she doesn’t need a husband, but a child who obeys her all the time. She is more interested in raising me and improving my behavior. She doesn’t understand the idea of ​​what a relationship really means. So no, I don’t feel guilty for being with a woman outside of my marriage.